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Friendship.

Online communication. The cyber-world is such an odd place. Friendships are made... and then lost, because someone said something that was not true, and others believed in it, and without confronting you, or asking you for your side of the story, they just dump you like yesterday's news. One thing I have learned this year--and it has been a very hard lesson--is that I cannot control what anyone else says or does or even thinks. All I can do is stand true to my ideals and tenets. There are going to be those who lie about me--I cannot do anything about that. There are going to be those who believe in the lies--I cannot do anything about that either. When I see 'so-and-so' has unfriended you, it hurts--especially if I've cultivated what I thought was a pleasant and supportive relationship with that person. But you know what? That's just life. Folks are gonna follow who they wanna follow whether that person has validity or not (look at politics for evidence of that one). Folks are gonna believe what they wanna believe is the truth, whether it is or not. Nothing anyone can say or do will change things. I'm learning to let go. I'm learning to trust myself, to trust the evolutionary process, and to trust people who have proved themselves worthy of my attention and support. If you've heard something about me, and you don't have the decency--or maybe even the courage--to confront me and ask for my side of the story, then I guess I didn't need you in my life anyway. I wish you well, but I've my own life to live, with or without you.

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ashmedai
Sep. 2nd, 2015 01:25 am (UTC)
Wow - I sure haven't heard anything about you, and I hate it that people do that to others. I've had it happen to me and those closest to me too, and it sucks. PEOPLE suck sometimes, and it's very prevalent online, unfortunately. I'm sorry you had to experience that.
stonetalker
Sep. 2nd, 2015 02:00 am (UTC)
Thanks
It seems to be the virus of the century. Let's not find out the truth, let's just believe what we want to believe. Or maybe people have always been like that, and I'm just now opening my eyes to it. Whatever. I will continue to walk with integrity, compassion, and honesty. What others do is their issue, not mine. I have too many beautiful things on which to focus.
ashmedai
Sep. 2nd, 2015 02:04 am (UTC)
Re: Thanks
Exactly, that's all we can really do. Blessings to you. :)
mellyjc
Sep. 2nd, 2015 02:15 am (UTC)
I'm sorry. Never comfortable :(
xjenavivex
Sep. 2nd, 2015 02:43 am (UTC)

Hugs

stonetalker
Sep. 2nd, 2015 03:46 pm (UTC)
Hugs Returned
I've missed you, girl...
xjenavivex
Sep. 2nd, 2015 04:20 pm (UTC)
Re: Hugs Returned
Missed you too....so very much
stonetalker
Sep. 2nd, 2015 04:57 pm (UTC)
Re: Hugs Returned
Thank you. I'm still around... <3
acelightning
Sep. 2nd, 2015 02:57 am (UTC)
I never understood that kind of behavior in "real life", and I don't understand it online either. (The internet didn't cause this behavior, it just makes it easier to spread lies, jump to conclusions, and cut off communication.) If I have something I want to say to a person, I just find a way to say it, as straightforwardly yet non-accusingly as possible; rational adults ought to be able to work out their differences in peaceful ways. (Come to think of it, where have all the rational adults gone?)

(Of course, I do have an awful lot of stuff in Sagittarius...)

stonetalker
Sep. 2nd, 2015 03:44 pm (UTC)
Communication
It's the lack of communication that baffles me. If I have a friend and we're on the verge of falling out over something, or there's been a misunderstanding, the first thing I do is reach out. "Can we talk about this?" I prefer to do it in person or over the phone, NOT in text, because it's more real, and less can be taken the wrong way. When this whole turdfest started this summer, the first thing I did was ask if I could call one of the people involved, one who was a close friend--or so I thought. Her reply was, "I don't want to speak to you." That told me everything I needed to know. The friendship was a fake, her professed love for me was a sham, and she had no intention on trying to make things right.

Those who have bailed from my contact list are in the same category. A real friend would have messaged me and said, "Whoa, what the hell's going on," not just deleted and blocked me with not even a word. That shows me that their platitudes were just placebos, and that their compassion was just a front. While I feel empty, I'm not hurt. Bemused, maybe, but I feel clean. I feel free. I don't have room for imitations of any kind in my life--not in my food and certainly not in my friends. Quality over quantity--and my two new pottery friends are the real deal, and I'm learning so much from them! More to follow in a post about that, once I've got pics and gathered my thoughts.

Hugs!
acelightning
Sep. 3rd, 2015 06:14 am (UTC)
Re: Communication
By the way, this is why I refuse to have anything whatsofuckingever to do with Facebook.
dark_phoenix54
Sep. 2nd, 2015 10:19 am (UTC)
I think it's appalling when that happens, and I'm so sorry it's happened to you.
gythiawulfie
Sep. 2nd, 2015 12:46 pm (UTC)
Sounds like the sheeple virus is spreading
Sheeple: people who blindly follow a person, notion, idea, religion, or fact without bothering to look up at where they are going, fact checking or research.

Sounds like you ran into a bunch of sheeple. Don't get me wrong, some sheeple are honest, mean well, and don't understand they are sheeple, but they make some stupid decisions and when it comes to believing the worst of people, that tends to be what they gravitate towards without checking facts.
stonetalker
Sep. 2nd, 2015 03:37 pm (UTC)
Re: Sounds like the sheeple virus is spreading
All I know is that while I feel empty, and maybe a bit sad not to be interacting with some of these folks, I actually feel very clean. I guess the garbage took itself out, yeah?
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